I remember my mother telling me I could do anything I wanted to do. I shrugged her off, but I have to admit, that is one of the key voices in my head ‘I can do anything I want to do.’ We are creating voices in our children’s subconscious so we may as well make them positive ones.
Taking the time to watch our children and reflect what we see is the best kind of reinforcement as it is very specific so the child can tell it is true. For example, I noticed you put your plate into the dishwasher last night and tonight, you are such a great contributor to our household. Thank you. Or I loved the funny story you told at dinner, I love to laugh. You have a wonderful sense of humour. Catching them being thoughtful, kind, sharing is wonderful – just watch your child glow as you reflect back to them what you see.
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